Monday, November 13, 2006
Come What May
With everything else going on with our family, I failed to mention a few things so that I wouldn't cause more drama. I feel like people will be mad at me, and I couldn't handle that too. For better or worse, I have started talking to Sarah, Eddy and Wendy again. I worked things out with each of them. It wasn't all in one conversation, and it took a lot of working out with each of them, but I finally feel like things are cleared up. I know that Allie has already said that it wasn't something that she would do, but the decision is mine to make. I know that you all just feel protective of me and don't want me to get hurt again, and I do appreciate that. And it's not like I go and hang out with these people all of the time now, but I just wanted everyone to know that I am talking to them again, so if they come over or something, don't beat them up, okay?
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Chelsee, you are correct that it is your life and it is your decision to make. As your older and wiser sister, however, I just want to say one thing. I think you need to take a look at the people you surround yourself with. Are they good people? Are they positive and uplifting? Is there something about your "friendship" that helps you in some way or makes you happy?
My worry is you may be forgiving people who have wronged you for, in my opinion, the wrong reason. What is it about these people that you value, that makes it so you want to continue being friends after they have hurt you? Please, just think about it. Life is not a popularity contest. You don't need to have friends just to have them. PLEASE be smart and surround yourself with people who are good to you. If you are in relationships where you are the one that is constantly giving, giving, giving and there is no return, ask yourself why you need that person in your life. It's like you said to me... there are times in your life when you know who your "true" friends are, and if these people are not, don't waste your time.
Love you.
Chelsee, I've been thinking a lot about the right thing to say to you about this. Obviously you knew what my initial reaction would be and that's why you've failed to mention this little development.
So the first thing I want to say is thank you for just being honest. I know sometimes that is the hardest part. I've done my share of things that a lot of people didn't agree with, and so I understand how much courage it must take to say, "Look, guys, this is the way it is." Because without that, I really don't think I would've known.
Danae hit on a lot of what I want to say, but I'm gonna say my piece anyway.
Tonight while I was thinking about these decisions I kept thinking of Tori Amos' song "Winter" when her dad asks her "When you gonna love you as much as I do?" WHat that means to me is that I think you're such an amazing person, and I think you're totally selling yourself short. When I think of what I would like for you, I think of you hanging out with really awesome, intellectual people who can quote Shakespere and also have a good time sitting and talking about anything and everything outside a coffee shop. I think that you have so much to contribute and the people around you right now stifle you. They're not good to you, and in my opinion they're not good for you.
However, I LOVE you and support you above everything else. I know that sometimes when I held onto things too long, LONG after everyone I knew was telling me to let go, I still had to hang on until I made the decision for myself. If you need to learn this lesson again, I'll stand by you. I feel like we're beating our heads against a brick wall with these people, but if I'm wrong, I'm happy for you. And if I'm right, maybe we'll learn whatever it is we need to learn the next time around.
I tried not to make my comment sound to negative, and after I posted it and re-read it, I don't think I really succeeded. If you want to talk about it with me, let's do it. If not, that's cool too. But overall, please just know that I'm trying to look out for you, and not trying to offend you.
Hey Scarlet,
How could a post which mentions Tori Amos and Shakespeare in the same paragraph be read in a negative way?
You rock.
In fact, I think all my sisters are fucking awesome.
Thanks everyone for not getting mad at me. That is exactly what I thought would happen. I have a problem with feeling attacked, even when I know that everyone has the best of attentions. That is actually the reason that I blogged this instead of telling people in person. That way, I wouldn't feel attacked. Kjerst, I didn't read your first blig in a negative way. I knew what you were trying to say. Thanks for understanding.
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