What do you say when you best friend calls you, crying her eyes out, because her dad just died? Natalie has been living in California for the summer, so she hasn't even seen her dad recently, but she was supposed to be coming home in three days. He died of a heart attack. He was driving when it happened, so he pulled over and the police are the ones that found him dead in his car. How terrible is that? And to make matters worse, Natalie's mom is already dead too. She died when she was 2 years old. Now Nat might stay in California to be with the rest of her family. I just wish that there was something I could do to help her through this.
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Allie gave me some good advice when Xaiden, our nephew, died. We were going to go up to the funeral, and I told Allie I didn't know what to do or say because something like that is so terrible and there's nothing that can cheer someone up, especially someone who's just lost their dad, or son in this case. And she said, "Just think that because you go up there and show your support, you're gonna help this family heal a little bit faster." I thought that was pretty impressive. You've always been a good friend to Natalie, and you'll be there for her when she comes back. So don't try and fix it, because you can't, but just be there to help her heal, even if it's just a little bit faster.
Thanks Kjerst.
I think I tried to say what Allie and Kjersti have also said. I think the very best help you can be is to just show your love and support. Natalie isn't expecting you to say anything to make it better, and sometimes people trying to make you feel better makes it worse. I think your presence and friendship is just what she needs.
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